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Should I Do A First Look?

When deciding if you and your spouse-to-be should do a first look before your ceremony you should weigh your options carefully and decide for yourselves without letting anyone else pressure you. Evaluate the pros and cons and decide what is right for you.

What Is a First Look?

A “first look” is when a couple sees each other on their wedding day before their wedding ceremony. It is a private moment for the couple, away from the eyes of family and friends. Some couples choose to include their bridal party to enjoy this moment with them to see the reaction of the groom seeing the bride for the first time. Many couples still want to stick with the older good luck wedding day tradition of the groom seeing the bride for the first time walking down the aisle. Either choice is completely valid!

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What are the pros and cons of a first look?


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  1. If you want to take your formal portraits before the ceremony you won’t miss the cocktail hour.
  2. If you’re worried about crying and messing up your make up during the ceremony this will give you a chance to freshen up beforehand!
  3. More time for portraits of the two of you. If you wait for the cocktail hour we get 45-60 minutes to get all of your formals and photos of the two of you. This allows us to get a whole session before the ceremony, and if you choose to still use your cocktail hour for portraits for the two of you it’s ALL YOU. Multiple locations, that time is YOURS.
  4. Private time with you and your significant other before the ceremony. This can help relieve any jitters either of you may be feeling meaning you will be calmer and more present during the ceremony.
  5. While seeing your spouse’s reaction coming down the aisle IS magical, you have more time to process those emotions during a first look. Hugs, kisses, shock and awe are all in play here.
  6. The feelings don’t go away. Here is a couple that did a first look, and here are both the first and the second look the ceremony:


  1. Seeing your partner walking down the aisle on your wedding day is a good luck tradition!
  2. If you do a first look you will have to get up earlier and spend more time in your wedding attire which could be uncomfortable.
  3. Your dress may get a bit dirty, especially if you choose to do a first look outdoors.
  4. Since you aren’t officially married yet, you won’t be wearing your wedding bands.
  5. Will it bother you that you aren’t actually married? If so, that’s something only YOU can decide.
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First Look Alternatives

Whether or not a couple opts for a first look I like to remind them that there are sometimes other special people in their lives who may want to have a “first look moment” with them! This can be a parent or grandparent who is especially close. I let this be completely up to them, and it makes for wonderful results!

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